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Old 04-02-2011, 05:45 AM   #1
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MEN! I have a question for you. Let's say you were in a long term relationship and things were getting a bit stale and boring in the sex department. And by "stale and boring", I mean I'm bored as fuck, and we're doing good to have sex two or three times a month anymore, and I'm doing all the initiating (and getting rejected most of the time, which is pissing me off). So I'm initiating less and less, because it just seems easier to take care of things myself. My hands don't reject me.

We're having major financial difficulties, and he's super stressed out about it. So he's so preoccupied with that that he's ignoring me. I've talked to him about it several times, and that doesn't seem to help. I prance around naked or in lingerie all the time, that doesn't work. I'll give him blowjobs or just mount him with no warning. But that doesn't help either.

So, my question to you guys is simply, what else can I do? What are some things that if a woman started doing them, no matter how stressed out or preoccupied you were with something else, you'd damn near rape that chick right then and there, and preferably keep coming back for more. I'm getting desperate.

Don't get me wrong, I understand why he's stressed, and I'm stressed about it, too. But I just don't think that letting it rule our thoughts and our lives is the best way to go about it, and I've told him that. I would think sex would be a good stress relief and a welcome distraction from our troubles, but apparently I'm the only one who thinks that.
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Old 04-02-2011, 06:27 AM   #2
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MEN! I have a question for you. Let's say you were in a long term relationship and things were getting a bit stale and boring in the sex department. And by "stale and boring", I mean I'm bored as fuck, and we're doing good to have sex two or three times a month anymore, and I'm doing all the initiating (and getting rejected most of the time, which is pissing me off). So I'm initiating less and less, because it just seems easier to take care of things myself. My hands don't reject me.

We're having major financial difficulties, and he's super stressed out about it. So he's so preoccupied with that that he's ignoring me. I've talked to him about it several times, and that doesn't seem to help. I prance around naked or in lingerie all the time, that doesn't work. I'll give him blowjobs or just mount him with no warning. But that doesn't help either.

So, my question to you guys is simply, what else can I do? What are some things that if a woman started doing them, no matter how stressed out or preoccupied you were with something else, you'd damn near rape that chick right then and there, and preferably keep coming back for more. I'm getting desperate.

Don't get me wrong, I understand why he's stressed, and I'm stressed about it, too. But I just don't think that letting it rule our thoughts and our lives is the best way to go about it, and I've told him that. I would think sex would be a good stress relief and a welcome distraction from our troubles, but apparently I'm the only one who thinks that.
I understand your question. It is a problem for both of you. A man's mind does tricks ( pun intended). For some reason my mind wanders to work related thoughts; not good.

The best way to solve this is to reduce the financial stress. Time is the best cure. Just give him your support and love, he needs that now. Tell him to take "time out" that you have a life, too!

I hope he will understand and take your needs into account. That is the best I can say now. It isn't much; maybe someone else can offer ideas.
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Old 04-02-2011, 12:30 PM   #3
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bmet is right about the man mind. If it's fixed on something, it's pretty hard to get it out of his head and that gets even worse if the matter has potential threat. Financial problems sure qualify as a threat in my book.

In my case, booze would help relieve some of the stress. It may not work for all though. And this is very temporary. In the long term, you need to fix the origin of the stress.

I don't know where you are but here there are tools and services available for such a situation. I'm guessing there must be some around you as well. If you have not already, you should have a look into them.

There are 2 basic common thing to fix every financial issue:
- Make a budget and follow it. Don't forget to keep a small margin for your gratification. You'll need some in a dry situation.
- Consolidate your debt so you have only one creditor. This way it becomes a lot easier to focus on your goal and that reduces stress.

If you have some valuable assets that you can part with, do it and make sure you use the money to clear part of the debt. If you use it for something else, you'll have regrets which will add to the stress.

Getting out of a financial problem is not easy and often take a significant amount of time. I know because it happened to me. But it can be done. Making a plan, following it and seeing results will relieve some stress and help you get thru it. I was alone back then and it was not easy. Hopefully, being a couple it might be easier if you both work at it.

Hope you will resolve the situation. Good luck.
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Old 04-02-2011, 01:24 PM   #4
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Try designating a 'date night'-Trying to see things the way they used to be. Both agree to leave all the problems of the world behind for those few precious 'important' hours, because I know it feels like you're in the worst situation in the world! Take all the toys you both have liked in the past. Remember the great times you have had with each other. Either find a secluded spot, even a 'cheap' room you have never been to. I know It's going to cost a few $$$ to pull this off, but it worked for me & my wife.....Kind off sparked things up & made us both realize the really important things in life.....And remember, just the anticipation of the date sometimes will even help.....but you have to leave your problems behind for a few hours to make it work! Good Luck-We're all behind you......or wished we were
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Old 04-02-2011, 03:09 PM   #5
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Bimiself, you hit a home run! My wife and I always set Friday eve as " Date Night". We either go to the food court in our mall, Red lobster, Carl's Jr., or a buffet. The location is dependent on the funds. We have no telephones or TV to bother us. We can talk freely with each other, even in crowds. No one wants to listen to our chatter! We are alone!

Yes, good luck to find your way out. It is important as age descends upon you. Don't give up!
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Old 04-02-2011, 08:21 PM   #6
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Thanks guys. It's good to know that's typical of men. It's not typical of me, so I end up projecting that onto other people.

Our problems will be fixed once we find new jobs, but until then, we're screwed. I lost my job in September, and have been looking for a new job since then. And his job is screwing him over and cutting his hours by over half, so now we're living on about $600 a month. We can't pay our rent, let alone our bills, and we had to go on food stamps. We're just lucky that our landlord isn't a dick and won't kick us out of our house.

We used to have date nights, but right now we're so strapped for cash that the only money we can set aside is just barely enough to cover his gas back and forth from work. So I've been trying to think of date night ideas that don't require any money.
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Old 04-02-2011, 08:53 PM   #7
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well bindicat... if date nite doesnt work, in terms as u did mention on the financial part... i wud say, a long drive, listen to music. if not then u cud always head to a park or a beach. spend quite some time by ur self. no distractions... please make sure u dont carry ur cell phones when u plan for a small trip by ur selves...
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Old 04-02-2011, 10:00 PM   #8
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MEN! I have a question for you. Let's say you were in a long term relationship and things were getting a bit stale and boring in the sex department. And by "stale and boring", I mean I'm bored as fuck, and we're doing good to have sex two or three times a month anymore, and I'm doing all the initiating (and getting rejected most of the time, which is pissing me off). So I'm initiating less and less, because it just seems easier to take care of things myself. My hands don't reject me.

We're having major financial difficulties, and he's super stressed out about it. So he's so preoccupied with that that he's ignoring me. I've talked to him about it several times, and that doesn't seem to help. I prance around naked or in lingerie all the time, that doesn't work. I'll give him blowjobs or just mount him with no warning. But that doesn't help either.

So, my question to you guys is simply, what else can I do? What are some things that if a woman started doing them, no matter how stressed out or preoccupied you were with something else, you'd damn near rape that chick right then and there, and preferably keep coming back for more. I'm getting desperate.

Don't get me wrong, I understand why he's stressed, and I'm stressed about it, too. But I just don't think that letting it rule our thoughts and our lives is the best way to go about it, and I've told him that. I would think sex would be a good stress relief and a welcome distraction from our troubles, but apparently I'm the only one who thinks that.
He is probably feeling pretty insecure about all of this. I know that when you feel that way sex isn't that interesting sometimes. You could try focusing less on sex and more on romantic things together. Take a long walk, or do something new,fun & exciting.Get out of your place and stay active. Exercise is a great way to get your mind off or life's problems. Some of these things might sound obvious but they help.
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Old 04-03-2011, 07:22 AM   #9
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I would say if things are working right now, just give it time. Fix your money problems them try again and then to for the date night. Good luck with everything.
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Old 04-03-2011, 05:39 PM   #10
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MEN! I have a question for you. Let's say you were in a long term relationship and things were getting a bit stale and boring in the sex department. And by "stale and boring", I mean I'm bored as fuck, and we're doing good to have sex two or three times a month anymore, and I'm doing all the initiating (and getting rejected most of the time, which is pissing me off). So I'm initiating less and less, because it just seems easier to take care of things myself. My hands don't reject me.

We're having major financial difficulties, and he's super stressed out about it. So he's so preoccupied with that that he's ignoring me. I've talked to him about it several times, and that doesn't seem to help. I prance around naked or in lingerie all the time, that doesn't work. I'll give him blowjobs or just mount him with no warning. But that doesn't help either.

So, my question to you guys is simply, what else can I do? What are some things that if a woman started doing them, no matter how stressed out or preoccupied you were with something else, you'd damn near rape that chick right then and there, and preferably keep coming back for more. I'm getting desperate.

Don't get me wrong, I understand why he's stressed, and I'm stressed about it, too. But I just don't think that letting it rule our thoughts and our lives is the best way to go about it, and I've told him that. I would think sex would be a good stress relief and a welcome distraction from our troubles, but apparently I'm the only one who thinks that.
First off.I'm jealous.I never had a lady that cared enough to try as hard as you do,when it comes to sex and love.It's not you.IT IS HIM.It's in his mind and there is nothing you can do to get him to think about something else.I've been right where he is at in his mind.Until things loosen up financially,he will be hard to get to.Getting him away from home may help.Do you guys have a friend or family member that maybe going out of town?If so,ask if you two can house sit.Make sure to take his favorite outfit that he likes you to wear and do what you do best,be sexy as hell.
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