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Male Self Concept and Small Penis Syndrome - Sexuality & Sexual Problems

So, like always I was looking through the Internet for articles on my "problem" and I came across this. Nice article, but what I found most important were the comments. I van clearly say those comments are realism of our problem.

that was an interesting read. :)

Yes, nice find. Especially the part about average dildo sizes in sex shops. I liked that.

Almost every article I find says the same thing, you think your size is small when you're really not. I wish I could find a couple articles discussing what to do when your size is under 5'0. I dunno, I try really hard to get over my size but sometimes it just hits me and not at the right time. It makes me even more depressed.

One of these days I will just type this into a Word document and from then on just copy and paste. Thank God I am going away for a week, it'll be a welcome break.

Road, just for some measurements of the female anatomy.

Your average vagina is only about 5" deep when not aroused.
The band of muscle (PC muscle group) that surrounds it lie in the first 3" of the vagina.

So, where is your problem with being under 5", so am I, until I joined up here, I wasn't even aware that I should feel hung up about this 'shortcoming'. Well, I am not, neither hung nor hung up.

Maybe do what I did a long time ago. Buy yourself a good anatomy book about the female reproductive organs and learn all you can about what is there, how it works and which parts can be influence by training and which not. Knowledge is the biggest penis extender in the world. If you know every nook and cranny of a womans body, you can invent all kinds of workarounds for most size issues, actually, this recommendation also applies to anybody with a large penis. Being blessed with a firehose size cock is not necessarily all it's cracked up to be.

My penis is about 4.5" in lenght a I don't even know the girth, not a large girth anyway and still, my wife once said to one of her friends, that I was the best lover she ever had. So, quite obviously size does not matter with every woman. Maybe I just got lucky with my wife, I don't know (well, I do know at another level) but it isn't just me here who had an extremely active and satisfying sex life.

At the end of the day I think there is always the question of why someone is depressed. Is penis size the real underlying problem or is it just that there is a depression and it just looks for something to blame it on. I am not a psychologist and I don't have the answer to that question but with some members here it does sound very much like it (I am not referring to you or anybody in particular, this is merely a general observation).

For most members here that are properly hung up about their size I personally would prescribe a prolonged porn website abstinence, giving them the opportunity to get back in touch with the real world and with real women.

I made a post on a porn site quite a while ago suggesting that the more readily available porn is over the internet, especially with no control over the age groups visiting, the more likely it is that especially younger people will develope a completely wrong perception of themselves, their bodies and what sex is about. Look at what you find most days on the web.

You have this guy with a big to huge penis, screwing the hell out of a preferrably underage looking 25+ year old woman, her screaming with fake delight and at the end getting on her knees begging the guy to shoot all over her face. Sorry, is it just me or is it just bullshit. What are adolescents to make of that? This is what sex is about? Must be, I just watched it, so it must be so.

Love? Bah. Affection? Go away. Tenderness? That's for sissy's. All a real woman wants is a real guy with a real penis, where real equals no less the 8".

All rubbish, all fake, all about a porn business running amok and people believing all this stuff. Seriously, why would I want to compare my penis with that of another guy? It's not as though I could borrow it. Yours and mine are what they are, period, use it, use it to its best advantage and most woman will be happy with you, which they won't if you are unhappy with yourself.

I am also on XHamster and Youporn but even there I need a break from this ever repetetive stuff. Maybe it's my 50+ years, maybe it's just the 95% of what is posted every day is really the same, I don't care but it is nice to get away from it all sometimes.

That being said, I'll be away for a week from Wednesday, so I am not chickening out of this discussion, I am just away for a week, which will be nice.

I can agree with you for the most part. Maybe I am looking for something to blame, but I also do think you might be the lucky one who found a woman who legitly doesn't care about size. Maybe the woman in my area are different or maybe in my head they're different. As far as talking to women, I'm not the greatest looking and overweight so my confidence and self-esteem is shit.
But I do thank you for trying to help, in the end only person who can help me is me.

Thanks Road. Weight, same here, up and down like a yoyo. I gain in winter and lose in summer and allthough I am not much of a smooth talker, just an incessant one, I've had a relationship most of my life, before I got married that is. Neither do I think it had much to do with penis size, let's face it, we're pretty much all here for the same reason. What is important is, you must be self confident. Not to the point of being so overbearing that people around you start considering you a self advertising pain in the neck but enough to show that you know who you are and that you stand up for yourself and your worth.

As far as great looking is concerned. Who's to judge that? You yourself would probably be far too self conscious to be fair on yourself, so it is best left to others and that again is where self confidence does come in. People perceive you differently if you have 'it'. Find something you are good at and don't tell me there isn't anything, I wouldn't believe it. We are all good at something, doesn't matter what it is. Be good with it, be proud of being good at it and tell people about it, just don't go over the top and forget to listen to others too.

If you still can't get your head around it, there is absolutely nothing wrong with consulting a trained and qualified professional. Psychologist, given half a chance, are pretty good at this. Try it sometime, there's nothing to lose is there?

I still feel embarrassed and insecure about my penis' size, even though people tell me not to be. : sex

Another awesome article. I feel the comments here might be the best yet. All in all it's always the same though.

The problem with this whole subject is that it has very little basis in reality. There are a lot of members here that would be perfectly sized to have a healthy and fulfilling sexlife, was it not for their emotional distress, anxiety and more over underlying problems of a complete lack of self confidence.

Penis size is obviously something that starts in the brain, not the groin the way I look at it. You could have 90% of all women on the planet saying that 4" is plenty to ensure a satisfying love life and still, the number of members on this forum would continue to grow.

I think I am beginning to repeat myself, as I am prone to do.

What good is a 10" penis, when the average vagina is merely 4" deep, with the most sensitive part located in the first 2-3". Great, I could screw her twice over at the same time, this kind of reminds me of the cold war, both sides were capable of killing everybody on the planet several times over. Question is, how many times can you die or how many times can your penis penetrate the same woman at the same time?

Self-confidence, that's what the majority of members are in much greater need of then an extra inch or two in the groin area.

Do you have any insight on kegel exercises Hover?

To get back on topic, I read a quote that stuck with me, "It's only a problem if you make it one." I'm going to try to lose weight, not for size but for health issues. Then I will do my best to search how to be the best lover without using my penis right away, I think that's helping my mindset.