getting hard and staying hard!
 

Let me start by saying that I'm almost 40, never have I had a problem and I wouldnt classify this as a problem either. It seems as though I just don't get really rock hard as often as I used too! I'm not sure if its because I'm in a rut or the fact that my girl seems to have just let go of herself and put on quite a bit of weight? I'm not sure if its a mental or physical thing going on. I just want my little guy hard as Fuck lol. What do you guys do if/when you run into this problem?

Not a problem I've encountered yet and I am 53. I get a hard on just watching my wife getting ready.

But on a more serious note, allthough you are quite young, some might say midlife crisis. Some would point out that the enchantment with your good wife has gone astray a little. There are basically a hundred possible reasons, food, drink, tobacco, medications, loss of interest, stress at work and elsewhere, you name it, anything that distracts in a major, though often not perceived way, can lead to such a symptom.

So long as you still get there with 'adequate' stimulation, there is usually nothing to worry about from a physical side but once there is a problem there too, you should go and see your doctor.

The psychological side is probably more difficult to pin down. We, apart from myself (LOL), are all under a lot of stress at the workplace, have too high expectations of others and the constant barrage of semi dressed model shaped women being thrown at us all day long, I am sure doesn't help either.

As for your wifes weight issue, well, if you love her, love her for who she is, rather then expect model meassurements. I am sure that goes a long way. My wife will be 50 this year, she's always been very slim and due to certain health problems at times even so skinny she wouldn't have been out of place in a UN food crisis camp (and I am not kidding). Still, I love her and she is still the most beautiful woman I know (to me anyway).

This might just be a passing phase, take some time out if you can, do something with your wife, go on a weeks vacation, just the two of you, somewhere romantic, inject some of that original love spirit back into your relationship. Who knows, she might end up losing weight just because she feels loved and desirable again and you might get what you are hoping for too.

Life can be a bitch sometimes and play right havoc with our relationships which is the best time to roll back time a wee bit and start courting again.

As usual, little more then my two cents worth.

The first step is a medical check up. Tell a medical doctor what is going on.

its what i saw on telly regarding that your penis is basically a barometer on how 'well' you are. So the healthier you are the harder your erections( I think it was on channel 4 embarassing bodies)

To a certain degree I guess that is true but there are most likely other influences to be considered. Also, beware of what you watch on TV. C4 can be a bit off the mark with their programmes. Some while back they aired a programme called 'The trouble with my Vagina'. Rather unfortunate maming, since the programme was about the vulva, not the vagina.

It's only TV and it has to entertain.