Is it OK to bring small size up positively?
 

Hi. I am a gay guy who dated this really great guy who happened to have a large frame, small penis, about 3-4" erect. I never saw it flaccid, he seemed to avoid situations where it would be seen flaccid. I can tell he is quite insecure about his penis size (he's very masculine and a top, FWIW) and I had the desire to tell him I liked it, but was afraid of coming off patronizing. The problem is he never brought it up, if he had I would have told him I think his size is great.

I would like to know for next time - would it have been wrong to bring it up? I worry that he might feel "damn, even this guy noticed it's small and is just trying to make me feel better," which is why I waited for him to bring it up but he didn't. I realize that unsolicited comments are not always taken well - I have had the experience of someone saying I have tiny balls, and he immediately backpedaled (even though I didn't care and just laughed his comment off) by saying they just look tiny compared to my dick. To this day, though, I still wonder if my balls are "inadequate."

So was I right to say nothing? If so, what point do you say something when you realize the guy is never going to bring up his size issues even though he shows several cues of being uncomfortable with his size? I could say something general like "I love your dick" or "I love having sex with you" and stay positive without bringing size up at all, but I wonder if those could be taken as condescension too.

Well I clicked on your post and was ready with a reply, then I saw smalldik already gave a better response than I had planned. So I'll just say welcome to the forum :)

I love when my gf says nice things about my tiny dick, i even made a thread on here about it.

You should start off by saying i love the size of your cock its perfect and see how he reacts.

I would suggest holding off until later because it can come off as if your trykng to cover up your awkwardness about it. I remember over 15 years ago when my twin brother (called stoutman on here) brought home his fiance for the first time to meet our parents. At the time she had a clear mole growing just slightly off center of the tip of her nose. One of the first things my Dad says to my Mom but loud enough for everyone to hear, "She has a cute nose, doesn't she have a cute nose?" We all knew what he was thinking but he just said the opposite because he was the uncomfortable one. Though it was definitely NOT the best first impression of him toward her.

Yeah, I think you guys are right. I won't say anything for now.

small_dik, I think it does get in the way of sex. Not the actual act but him trying to cover up right before and after is unnecessary and weird. I just want him to know I don't care, even if it's an inny when he's flaccid.