Cumming too fast
 

Is this a problem with smaller dicks or does size not make a difference. When I get excited I cum really fast like less than a min! I read where smaller guys are more sensitive because all the nerve endings are closer together than bigger guys. Anyone else have a stamina problem?

I cum really quickly too. Can cum "hands free".

I do that too

Try thinking of something else that pisses you off and of course stop stroking. Has worked for me for a long time.;)

Not sure if thats true or not, but I'm heard of guys (small included) training themselves to hold off on cumming.

isn't this something that comes (cums) with practice?

Has nothing to do with size. Has to do with how you're wired...but you can work on it and learn techniques to slow it down!

Look into flashlight STU. it's a male sex toy that helps you last longer, I recently bought one myself. Will arrive soon.

But look into it and you will not regret it based off on the reviews alone.

I will look into it thanks!

My fiance had a problem with cumming way too quick. Start-stop and other techniques like that didn't help us at all. But what does help are cock rings, and he also started taking a really low dose of Zoloft (an antidepressant) that he got a prescription for specifically to delay ejaculation. It's low enough that he doesn't feel any effects from it, but it's just enough that it makes him last twice as long, at the very least (without a cock ring). And with insurance, it's really cheap.

I have heard that anti depressants would lower your drive. I had never thought of or heard of a low dose helping with that. Thanks for replying, this is interesting. I thought is was just me and something that I would outgrow but it didnt seem to be getting any better. Now I just have to get the nerve to ask my dr. about it.

Yeah, most of them can kill it if you're taking a normal dose. That happened to me when I used to take them. But apparently for guys, if the dose is low enough, it just keeps them from cumming as fast, but doesn't affect their sex drive. I have no clue how it works, but it's proven itself for my fiance, atleast.

Thanks for the great information Bindicat! Now to get up the nerve to ask my dr about it! lol

Cumming
 

Yep, use to cum really fast when I was younger. Now the problem is getting it hard. I can play for hours now though without cumming.

Actually, I've yet to achieve orgasm without effort on my part (tensing my muscles I mean). It takes a while even doing that, but I can't even imagine cumming at all without it.

Hi Peanut, I know that problem from the past only too well. There are a number of things you could try...

The anti-depressant idea, personally, I would never go down that road. It has serious effects on the chemistry of your brains, which is why it would probably work but I found that smoking a joint has exactly the same effect and, despite it's public perception as an evil drug, it does not do you any kind of harm, apart from the smoking related aspect, unless you would honestly describe yourself as posessing an 'addictive personality', in which case you should stay well clear of any drugs of any coleur.

Lidocaine or other mumbing agents are obviously working but who wants to have sex with a penis that no longer feels the sensation of warmth, wetness and grip. Also, people become used to them in a psychological way and you may find that this will actually make things worse when you haven't got the product around.

There are a few books out there that actually do offer some decent advice, rather then the usual stuff you can find on forums and such. Have a look on Amazon or such for Mantak Chia's 'Any Man Can' I believe it is called. Not only does it offer advice but it also attempts to help you track down the reasons for your issue, very often anticipation of premature ejaculation is a big contributing factor to this happening.

Lastly and I do admit that this is not for everybody... If you are able to ejaculate multiple times, climax as early as you wish or have to the first time and keep going. The second ejaculation will happen a lot later and the third one even later then that. This was the road my wife and I went down a long time ago and it kept both of us happy, very happy. We've been married for more then 25 years now and with three or four climaxes for her, it sure has kept us happy and satisfied (well, to be honest, a couple of spliffs before we get going does help as well).

Right, just my two cents and I do apologise to any of you taking offence at me condoning the use of 'illicit' drugs but then, that is only an accident of history.

nothing has help me from stop cumming to quickly, oh well cumming is the best part and that means i can do it over and over many times, lol

Excersising your pc muscles does indeed help you control how fast you cum.
I personally have found other ways. When me and my girl are having sex, and im ready to cum but she still didint, i try to think about stuff not related to sex. I know its hard, but for me it works. In most desperate times, i once in a while even think about gay stuff. That sometimes makes my go limp. In which case my girl just goes down on me and im back to where i started.

use cock ring so it is stiff cock without you masturbate you can keep your orgasms a little longer
masturbate almost until you come and stop intentionally so 10 times or more and finally came, some do this often it takes longer before you come

This comes from a book and it works for me. The urge to ejaculate is strongest within a minute or so. If you get past that it settles down and builds over time. Differs by individual. So here's what I do. When I first start to feel the urge I back out and give my partner head. Of course, you 're dripping you pre-cum, but so be it. After I work my partner to her satisifaction I re-enter and go at it. By this time I have much more control. Try it. Don't do drugs!

Some cocks are growers and some are showers. I read that the growers tend to come quicker as just being hard is a totally different sensory experience the brain is not used to. The book said you have to train your brain to just get used to being hard. It said sleep naked, and during the day as many times as possible get hard and use a cock ring to stay hard but don't orgasm. I am a grower and I have never been able to stick with the plan to see if it works or not.

I agree with stickybob, I have a strong urge to come at the start when I first get hard. I have to be careful not to come straight away. But then during sex if I am getting close I just change position and that gives me a chance to cool down a bit. I guess I average at 20 mins. I am not sure if that is OK or still too quick? I hear on the TV and pop songs etc. you are supposed to last ALL NIGHT hour after hour.... I hope it is not true !

I cum too quickly also.
I hate it.
One time I was so embarrassed but the woman I was with was so kind
and said she enjoyed it so much.
She really surprised me.
But still I hate cumming in less than 1 or 2 minutes.

@stickybob: The 'don't do drugs' is a bit of a sweeping statement. What did you do when you got up this morning? Have a cup of coffee? Maybe a cigarette? A glass of wine with your dinner last night? Maybe a beer to chill out in the evening?

Don't do drugs? It's all relative, isn't it? If you drink, you'd be a criminal in any muslim country. If you had a joint in southern India, the Czech Repulic, Portugal, Netherlands, etc. you are not.

The legality of anything is more a case of historical accident, rather then proven to be harmful. I've been smoking for 37 years now, I have two university degrees, I was, amongst other things chief legal advisor for two multinationals, being responsible for all the tax relevant legal advise, not really the makings of a drug addict wouldn't you agree?

I think you'd be surprised if tomorrow weed was made legal, just how many people you know and would have thought to be 'clean' to actually have a spliff in the evening.

And no, I would never urge anybody to do anything, it was a recommendation based on a tried and tested method, what anybody else makes of it is up to them.

try to look for condoms that have special lubricants to make you last longer... i used this one condom... and boy.... it made me last a good 40mins!! that was a first for me....