Thanks Road for clarifying that for me. I hadn't come across that one before but I guess we in the UK have probably just as many words that are not common use in the States. Well, certainly makes language even more interesting then it already is.
As for the 'not taking charge'... Simply don't, just talk to them, women do pick up on this too and allthough maybe the majority will be more into a man taking the lead, it doesn't mean they are all like that.
I have the (dis?)advantage of talking endlessly anyway. Gets me into all sorts of odd situations but at least in a group of people I have not met before, I will usually be the one that goes home knowing that I have added the most aquaintances to my list, not that I ever set out to do that, it just happens. Also, I can easily laugh at myself and don't take life that seriously, that helps, especially when I (again) open my mouth and put my foot in it, as does happen all too often.
Alfred Adler, the, I think, Austrian psychologist formulated the theory of compensation for physical defects, if you want to call a small penis that (he was not referring to genetalia per se, though), saying that people that have the inherent tendency to feel inadequate often make up for this by exeeding in other fields, like Beethooven who was deaf as a doornail, yet composed some of the most wonderful works of classial music. Maybe I am just a point in case for his often disputed theory. I'd like to believe it is so.
What I am trying to say is that, we are all good at something, even if we ourselves night not rate this too highly. That's always a good point for a conversation, everything else follows later, maybe even much later but it does get you there (wherever there may be) in the end.
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