I use this site, as well as others, as a fantasy. Have had guys acting as cute girls leading me on fully knowing the possibility of it being a guy-SO WHAT!-I've had much 'satisfaction' just playing along, thinking just maybe it's for real. Most of these sites are a fantasy for most of the people I think. For the few that actually 'hook up' I say good for them & have fun! I'm always hoping I run into a guy or girl close by that have the same wants/needs as I do & can actually enjoy each other! I left this site a few years ago because of the bitching & whining & it seemed to be better now. Now I see the same crap again from people trying to make others conform to the way they 'think it should be'! Sorry for rambling-feel better now