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Salmonpink, this part of your post I found rather intriguing...
True, in fact rather true if one supports the writings of Alfred Adler, the founder of todays school of individual psychology. He first wrote about 'compensation', taking such examples as Napoleon, Beethoven, etc. Napoleon being only 4'8" and Beethoven deaf in his later life. There are more examples in his works that he references.

Maybe that is why I as a short dicked, overweight, 5'7" something aimed at making it to the top as a musician. Rich and famous and all those groupies, can't be bad. LOL

Only goes to show that size, regardless of what part of you you apply it to, really doesn't matter. Women find success sexy, very sexy indeed. Beats a fast car any day. A successful person is a good provider, very important in life, even today.

But the most important thing has to be self esteem. I know, easier said than done, especially for someone already feeling 'inedequate', regardless of the underlying cause.

I know that I have been told by some members that I made this suggestion to that visits to a psychologist would not help them. I disagree with this viewpoint. If you are willing and able to open up completely in his/her presence, these people are trained to help you, using all the tricks in the book, to overcome at least part of your self esteem issues. But as I said, it does require a certain amount of belief in the mind over matter principle and your ability to truly open up, something that some never achieve, after all, it is of a very intimate nature the relationship between patient and psychologist.

The alternative is finding help and support from your friends, true friends of course.

I don't know where you come from but at least at the moment you can still get a referral from your GP (should you live in the UK) to a psychologist, who knows how much longer for with all the things our wonderful elected leaders are doing to the NHS.

Even some churches will be able to help you, at least those that have what I'd call a more sensible and practical approach to life, ie. those that do not demand that you seek help solely in prayer. No offence to any member of a different beliefsystem intended, this is purely personal opinion.

Here is a link to Wikipedia's article about Alfred Adler, you might like to read that when you have a moments time.

Wikipedia: Alfred Adler

Right, enjoy the Bank Holiday weekend all of you, I'm out of here for some minor fun in the sun.

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