Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence - Page 3

hoverfly · 06-18-2012, 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by crazy8

Yeah Hover i hear what you are saying. I just think that maybe maybe if these guys hear it enough, maybe one of them will muster up the courage to put themselves out there. I dont know man. I just remeber my life back when i thought that the possibility of me being with a girl is like me going to space.

Well, with going to space becoming ever more affordable... Someone roll the clock forward half a century, I'm game, I'll sell everything I have and get on board.

But that's totally beside the point, isn't it.

Road · 06-20-2012, 01:06 AM

Hopefully members like myself and hopefully Virgin are still "young" enough to en this depression. Only advice I have is go out there and take risks, talk to girls with a nothing to lose mentally. She turns you down? Eh, I'll just talk to her. Even give a pretty chubby chick a chance. Find ways to boost our self-esteem. I suggest volunteer work. Working out. I really believe Virgin4 is a perfect age to meet women. THere are tons of single grandmothers who want some company. Look for certain websites. For people like me, the most beautiful could tell me I'm cute and size doesn't matter but it will just enter one ear and leave the other. Im getting close to telling girls that I think they're pretty. Let's see when I take the next step.

crazy8 · 06-20-2012, 05:10 PM

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Let's see when I take the next step.

Been waiting for that for a long long time now dawg.

hoverfly · 06-20-2012, 07:12 PM

@Crazy: I didn't want to spell it out quite so brutally but you have taken the words right out of my mouth.

One thing though. Call me ignorant or just plain stupid but what does 'dawg' mean? 25 years at least on the internet but I still can't get my head around some of those abbreviations, if that is one and not merely a written vocalisation.

@Road: My friend, one of these days you will have to start practicing what you preach in your signature and I do not mean that in any kind of disrespectful way.

You remind me very much of a close friend of mine from Hamburg who is so full of compassion, so nice, so concerned with the well-being of the rest of the planet that he gets so down about everything that he has failed to find a job for the past 18 years.

Remember this: Carpe Diem or in no nonsense, do it today or cry for the lost time tomorrow.

Road · 06-21-2012, 01:04 AM

I can easily say what I feel, but can never take charge. And 'dawg' is just American slang for friend. Not really sure where it came from. It's been around since the mid 90's. Maybe it's a way to let a friend how 'loyal' he is Lol.

hoverfly · 06-21-2012, 09:00 AM

Thanks Road for clarifying that for me. I hadn't come across that one before but I guess we in the UK have probably just as many words that are not common use in the States. Well, certainly makes language even more interesting then it already is.

As for the 'not taking charge'... Simply don't, just talk to them, women do pick up on this too and allthough maybe the majority will be more into a man taking the lead, it doesn't mean they are all like that.

I have the (dis?)advantage of talking endlessly anyway. Gets me into all sorts of odd situations but at least in a group of people I have not met before, I will usually be the one that goes home knowing that I have added the most aquaintances to my list, not that I ever set out to do that, it just happens. Also, I can easily laugh at myself and don't take life that seriously, that helps, especially when I (again) open my mouth and put my foot in it, as does happen all too often.

Alfred Adler, the, I think, Austrian psychologist formulated the theory of compensation for physical defects, if you want to call a small penis that (he was not referring to genetalia per se, though), saying that people that have the inherent tendency to feel inadequate often make up for this by exeeding in other fields, like Beethooven who was deaf as a doornail, yet composed some of the most wonderful works of classial music. Maybe I am just a point in case for his often disputed theory. I'd like to believe it is so.

What I am trying to say is that, we are all good at something, even if we ourselves night not rate this too highly. That's always a good point for a conversation, everything else follows later, maybe even much later but it does get you there (wherever there may be) in the end.

crazy8 · 06-21-2012, 04:28 PM

Good point Hover, and yea Dawg means pretty much what Road said it means. I sometimes substitute it for words like man, bro, pal, partner, homie etc........
You are making very good point Hover, but i think it all comes down to something much simpler.
Girls crave attention, girls love to be comlimented. Gilr are also crazy insecure about every little thing about their body. Last but not least, there are many, many women out there who are just simply looking for a nice guy to settle down with.
One thing women dont want, is insecure men. You know what they also generally dont want, an inexprienced men. Thats why i have been telling Road for a long time now to just sleep with a couple of random girls, just to get the exprience and help with self steem.
Like always say, my life saw no changes and no light at the end of the tunnell until i lost my virginity. When i went down on her and gave her a pretty intense orgasm, my first time ever seeing a vagina in real life by the way. After that, it gave me a sense of power that i didint have before. It gave me confidence. When i started going out with my girl at first she didint believe me that i had pretty much no experience in sex.

Road · 06-22-2012, 03:46 AM

Yea, but it's just not that simple to go out and get laid. And if I don't, it's not like it's the end of the world for me.

hoverfly · 06-22-2012, 06:24 PM

@Crazy: Since 'dawg' appeared to be more common knowledge then I had expected, I looked it up on Wiki and lo and behold, it came up with a rather lengthy article on African American Vernacular English. I hadn't expected that.

Thanks for enlightening me on the subject.

As for what else you state, well put, couldn't agree more with it.

Just one thing, I do like having the last word

, you probably saw here vulva, rather then her vagina, unless that is, you had some forceps and a torch with you. Not sure how that might be received though.

But at the end of the day you are right. Once you have discovered that you can do 'it', it must surely be one of the greatest morale boosters ever. Puts a lot of things into perspective, doesn't it?

@Road: No it isn't but as Crazy pointed out, it would take away that nagging feeling that size does matter as much as some think and that can't be a bad thing, especially bearing in mind just how much it possibly effects other aspects of life.

Well, at the end of the day I believe you are still young, aren't you? At least compared with an old fart like myself. You'll sort it out.

Road · 06-23-2012, 07:50 PM

I really hope so.

06-20-2012, 01:06 AM	#22
Road Tiny Dick Extraordinaire Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 671	Hopefully members like myself and hopefully Virgin are still "young" enough to en this depression. Only advice I have is go out there and take risks, talk to girls with a nothing to lose mentally. She turns you down? Eh, I'll just talk to her. Even give a pretty chubby chick a chance. Find ways to boost our self-esteem. I suggest volunteer work. Working out. I really believe Virgin4 is a perfect age to meet women. THere are tons of single grandmothers who want some company. Look for certain websites. For people like me, the most beautiful could tell me I'm cute and size doesn't matter but it will just enter one ear and leave the other. Im getting close to telling girls that I think they're pretty. Let's see when I take the next step. __________________ "If you let it get to you, you will be opening a door of self loathing, despair, and hatred. Look beyond and accept. It will do more to develop your self-acceptance than nearly anything else. We all must learn the lesson of accepting ourselves. If we don't accept ourselves, for what we are, then how can we expect anyone else to accept us?"

06-20-2012, 07:12 PM	#24
hoverfly Tiny Dick Extraordinaire Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: East of England Posts: 1,567	@Crazy: I didn't want to spell it out quite so brutally but you have taken the words right out of my mouth. One thing though. Call me ignorant or just plain stupid but what does 'dawg' mean? 25 years at least on the internet but I still can't get my head around some of those abbreviations, if that is one and not merely a written vocalisation. @Road: My friend, one of these days you will have to start practicing what you preach in your signature and I do not mean that in any kind of disrespectful way. You remind me very much of a close friend of mine from Hamburg who is so full of compassion, so nice, so concerned with the well-being of the rest of the planet that he gets so down about everything that he has failed to find a job for the past 18 years. Remember this: Carpe Diem or in no nonsense, do it today or cry for the lost time tomorrow. __________________ Feeling a little peckish? Visit The Official Food Porn Thread Click here if you need help uploading pictures. Guide to Uploading and Managing your Attachments Click here if you need to contact the forum staff. List of Forum Staff

06-21-2012, 01:04 AM	#25
Road Tiny Dick Extraordinaire Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 671	I can easily say what I feel, but can never take charge. And 'dawg' is just American slang for friend. Not really sure where it came from. It's been around since the mid 90's. Maybe it's a way to let a friend how 'loyal' he is Lol. __________________ "If you let it get to you, you will be opening a door of self loathing, despair, and hatred. Look beyond and accept. It will do more to develop your self-acceptance than nearly anything else. We all must learn the lesson of accepting ourselves. If we don't accept ourselves, for what we are, then how can we expect anyone else to accept us?"

06-21-2012, 09:00 AM	#26
hoverfly Tiny Dick Extraordinaire Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: East of England Posts: 1,567	Thanks Road for clarifying that for me. I hadn't come across that one before but I guess we in the UK have probably just as many words that are not common use in the States. Well, certainly makes language even more interesting then it already is. As for the 'not taking charge'... Simply don't, just talk to them, women do pick up on this too and allthough maybe the majority will be more into a man taking the lead, it doesn't mean they are all like that. I have the (dis?)advantage of talking endlessly anyway. Gets me into all sorts of odd situations but at least in a group of people I have not met before, I will usually be the one that goes home knowing that I have added the most aquaintances to my list, not that I ever set out to do that, it just happens. Also, I can easily laugh at myself and don't take life that seriously, that helps, especially when I (again) open my mouth and put my foot in it, as does happen all too often. Alfred Adler, the, I think, Austrian psychologist formulated the theory of compensation for physical defects, if you want to call a small penis that (he was not referring to genetalia per se, though), saying that people that have the inherent tendency to feel inadequate often make up for this by exeeding in other fields, like Beethooven who was deaf as a doornail, yet composed some of the most wonderful works of classial music. Maybe I am just a point in case for his often disputed theory. I'd like to believe it is so. What I am trying to say is that, we are all good at something, even if we ourselves night not rate this too highly. That's always a good point for a conversation, everything else follows later, maybe even much later but it does get you there (wherever there may be) in the end. __________________ Feeling a little peckish? Visit The Official Food Porn Thread Click here if you need help uploading pictures. Guide to Uploading and Managing your Attachments Click here if you need to contact the forum staff. List of Forum Staff

06-22-2012, 03:46 AM	#28
Road Tiny Dick Extraordinaire Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 671	Yea, but it's just not that simple to go out and get laid. And if I don't, it's not like it's the end of the world for me. __________________ "If you let it get to you, you will be opening a door of self loathing, despair, and hatred. Look beyond and accept. It will do more to develop your self-acceptance than nearly anything else. We all must learn the lesson of accepting ourselves. If we don't accept ourselves, for what we are, then how can we expect anyone else to accept us?"

06-21-2012, 04:28 PM	#27
crazy8 Tiny Dick Ultimate User Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 462	Good point Hover, and yea Dawg means pretty much what Road said it means. I sometimes substitute it for words like man, bro, pal, partner, homie etc........ You are making very good point Hover, but i think it all comes down to something much simpler. Girls crave attention, girls love to be comlimented. Gilr are also crazy insecure about every little thing about their body. Last but not least, there are many, many women out there who are just simply looking for a nice guy to settle down with. One thing women dont want, is insecure men. You know what they also generally dont want, an inexprienced men. Thats why i have been telling Road for a long time now to just sleep with a couple of random girls, just to get the exprience and help with self steem. Like always say, my life saw no changes and no light at the end of the tunnell until i lost my virginity. When i went down on her and gave her a pretty intense orgasm, my first time ever seeing a vagina in real life by the way. After that, it gave me a sense of power that i didint have before. It gave me confidence. When i started going out with my girl at first she didint believe me that i had pretty much no experience in sex.

06-22-2012, 06:24 PM	#29
hoverfly Tiny Dick Extraordinaire Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: East of England Posts: 1,567	@Crazy: Since 'dawg' appeared to be more common knowledge then I had expected, I looked it up on Wiki and lo and behold, it came up with a rather lengthy article on African American Vernacular English. I hadn't expected that. Thanks for enlightening me on the subject. As for what else you state, well put, couldn't agree more with it. Just one thing, I do like having the last word , you probably saw here vulva, rather then her vagina, unless that is, you had some forceps and a torch with you. Not sure how that might be received though. But at the end of the day you are right. Once you have discovered that you can do 'it', it must surely be one of the greatest morale boosters ever. Puts a lot of things into perspective, doesn't it? @Road: No it isn't but as Crazy pointed out, it would take away that nagging feeling that size does matter as much as some think and that can't be a bad thing, especially bearing in mind just how much it possibly effects other aspects of life. Well, at the end of the day I believe you are still young, aren't you? At least compared with an old fart like myself. You'll sort it out. __________________ Feeling a little peckish? Visit The Official Food Porn Thread Click here if you need help uploading pictures. Guide to Uploading and Managing your Attachments Click here if you need to contact the forum staff. List of Forum Staff

06-23-2012, 07:50 PM	#30
Road Tiny Dick Extraordinaire Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 671	I really hope so. __________________ "If you let it get to you, you will be opening a door of self loathing, despair, and hatred. Look beyond and accept. It will do more to develop your self-acceptance than nearly anything else. We all must learn the lesson of accepting ourselves. If we don't accept ourselves, for what we are, then how can we expect anyone else to accept us?"