Has anyone tried or thought about online dating sites? - Page 2

joe1257 · 04-14-2012, 12:59 PM

I want to try online dating but I'm afraid women will think I am a creep or really desperate.

drake7k · 04-14-2012, 07:18 PM

It all depends on how your act and what sites you go to. If the woman is going to like you then she will like you, if not, then she wasn't worth your time. That goes for both genders. I met mine on a site for a little sex, but we hit it off so well together that we kept seeing each other, until we couldn't stand being apart. Be honest with who you are from the get go, if you pretend to be someone you are not, then when you start getting comfortable with the person, your real personality comes through, and that tends to lead towards problems later on. And try not to just go for someone just for sex, that usually ends badly, though not in my case. If you make sex the priority, then the sexual part will be the focus of the relationship, and you are more likely to get pushed away do to size, but it they grow to like you, then your cock size won't be that much of an issue.

hoverfly · 04-16-2012, 10:39 AM

Well spoken drake, couldn't agree more.

Never used a dating site at all but in the real world this too applies. You simply can't fool everybody all of the time. And with regards to sex... Call me old fashioned but I've always preferred to strike up non-sexual relationship as opposed to going the other way round and that seems to have been a good move, at least for me anyway.

drake7k · 04-16-2012, 06:54 PM

Thank you hoverfly.

crazy8 · 04-18-2012, 01:40 PM

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or really desperate

Arent you?

hoverfly · 04-18-2012, 08:46 PM

Do you have to pay to use these dating sites? Pardon my ignorance but being an old fart that never quite figured out what was wrong with meeting people face to face, I am rather curious.

We have TV ads about various UK dating sites and I know you have to pay for those but at least on TV they state that it is all about finding the perfect partner, for marriage, partnership, etc. Whether they lead to anything or not, I have no idea and matching interests and viewpoints I find hardly convincing evidence of compatibility. In fact, there is an old saying... opposites attract and at least with my wife and myself this most certainly holds true. She's the visual artist, I couldn't draw a stickman. I do logic and math, she does compassion and emotion. Opposites attract, there must be something to it.

jobleau · 04-19-2012, 11:40 PM

I've tried a bunch of those sites. Most will allow you a free account to set up a profile and browse other people profiles. Problem is when you find someone interesting you won't be able to send a mail. At best they have a 'wink' feature that you can use to let the other person know you are interested. If you want to do any kind of direct contact you usually have to upgrade your account to a paying one in the range of $30 to $50 a month, depending on the feature package you want. Want to email, pay. Want advanced search based on location or other criteria, pay more.

But wait. That ain't the worst. Now that you've shelled your money and have all those nifty features, you're now exposed to 2 types of people you don't want. Fraudsters and dishonest people. Fraudsters are mostly annoying. You can usually see them coming and filter them out.

But dishonest people, that's another story. You joined with a sincere desire to find someone, built an honest profile describing you as best as you can along with a couple of pictures. The least you can expect is honesty in return. Well, lots of people on those sites are not.

I won't go into relating all the adventures I had with those sites. But I'll say that I used about 10 of them over the years and met a total of 6 women out of them. 1 of them was genuine and we simply were not a match. Fair enough. 4 of them (with profiles without pictures, darn don't make that mistake) were outright liars about a lot of things, particularly about physical appearance. And the last one, well, believe it or not, the pictures she posted, that showed an average looking rather tall and thin women, were not even hers. She was 5 feet and must have weighted near 300 pounds. Even the faces bore no resemblances. The sad part for her is that, even for a fat woman, she was rather cute. Much cuter than the picture of the woman she posted. But being lied like that was not something I could accept.

This was bad enough. But here is the worst. On some of these sites, you will get tricked into buying by someone contacting you and suddenly disappearing once you've paid. I wonder what's the revenue percentage these sites get with such schemes...

Now, I'm not saying all dating sites are bad or fraudulent. I'm just relating a few of the experiences I had with them. So be careful and be aware that your millage can vary a lot.

hoverfly · 04-20-2012, 06:21 AM

Jo, that made a very interesting read. Do you think that sites that 'appear' more reliable, ie. like the ones in the UK that advertise on TV are any better? They seem to be going down the road of 'Marriage Bureaus' at least in their TV ads, more then just a fun place to hook up, since this might give the impression of promoting prostitution and would instantly be banned from the box.

Just curious and you didn't mention what sort of sites they were, that you used.

That with your overweight, cute lady, yes, that does seem a shame. You seem to get into more and more trouble if you don't fit that perfect body image. Now, that being said, in a recent documentary on the BBC, I think it was part of the science series Horizon, The Truth about Fat, that they claimed that in Britain now 25% of all women and 20% of all men must now be classed as obese (I can imagine those figures to be similar in the USA and a lot of other countries), yet still this myth of everybody looking like a Baywatch Babe (or whatever may be the latest fad) is perpetuated.

Relationships are just much about physical appearance and little or no attention is paid to the human being behind it. Must make for a lot of very lonely people.

jobleau · 04-20-2012, 11:56 AM

I don't know about UK sites, but I did use a couple of Canadian sites that were advertising on TV. Not much better than the others in the end. They were may be a bit better designed and maintained. And they sure looked like they were making money. I did found that the sites that give you less free options seems to be the ones that make more money. Is that a coincidence? I don't know. The site that tricked me into paying for an account was one of them though. And I don't think that was a coincidence.

I won't be naming any of these sites for obvious reasons.

I'm not sure what you mean by sort of sites. They were basically all boasting to be the best site to meet/date people.

As for the north american percentage of obese, I believe it is more in the 40%, especially in younger people.

hoverfly · 04-20-2012, 08:44 PM

With 'sort of sites' was still considering that there might actually be a difference between the TV ad jobs and those that give the impression of being a whorehouse for the desperate. But you saying that it seems to make little if any difference obviously debunks this and renders my question somewhat pointless.

See, I keep telling you, you're talking to a dinosaur. LOL. Remember me telling you that I am back on 'proper' SLR's?

40% of youth in the USA. Well, I think I had better send our whales of to fast food paradise on London Road here. A friend of mine counted them once going up and down the road. He reckons just under 400 in a 3 mile stretch. Looks like we still have some catching up to do. LOL

Not that it surprises me anymore. Recently one of our more obscure TV stations started airing a programme called 'Man v. Food', where some jerk is trying to eat some of the most gigantic meals I have ever seen, some of them totally disgusting i.m.o. but I guess if you drown it in enough tomato sauce....

Well, if people like that can be heroes, little wonder.

04-16-2012, 10:39 AM	#13
hoverfly Tiny Dick Extraordinaire Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: East of England Posts: 1,567	Well spoken drake, couldn't agree more. Never used a dating site at all but in the real world this too applies. You simply can't fool everybody all of the time. And with regards to sex... Call me old fashioned but I've always preferred to strike up non-sexual relationship as opposed to going the other way round and that seems to have been a good move, at least for me anyway. __________________ Feeling a little peckish? Visit The Official Food Porn Thread Click here if you need help uploading pictures. Guide to Uploading and Managing your Attachments Click here if you need to contact the forum staff. List of Forum Staff

04-18-2012, 08:46 PM	#16
hoverfly Tiny Dick Extraordinaire Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: East of England Posts: 1,567	Do you have to pay to use these dating sites? Pardon my ignorance but being an old fart that never quite figured out what was wrong with meeting people face to face, I am rather curious. We have TV ads about various UK dating sites and I know you have to pay for those but at least on TV they state that it is all about finding the perfect partner, for marriage, partnership, etc. Whether they lead to anything or not, I have no idea and matching interests and viewpoints I find hardly convincing evidence of compatibility. In fact, there is an old saying... opposites attract and at least with my wife and myself this most certainly holds true. She's the visual artist, I couldn't draw a stickman. I do logic and math, she does compassion and emotion. Opposites attract, there must be something to it. __________________ Feeling a little peckish? Visit The Official Food Porn Thread Click here if you need help uploading pictures. Guide to Uploading and Managing your Attachments Click here if you need to contact the forum staff. List of Forum Staff

04-20-2012, 06:21 AM	#18
hoverfly Tiny Dick Extraordinaire Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: East of England Posts: 1,567	Jo, that made a very interesting read. Do you think that sites that 'appear' more reliable, ie. like the ones in the UK that advertise on TV are any better? They seem to be going down the road of 'Marriage Bureaus' at least in their TV ads, more then just a fun place to hook up, since this might give the impression of promoting prostitution and would instantly be banned from the box. Just curious and you didn't mention what sort of sites they were, that you used. That with your overweight, cute lady, yes, that does seem a shame. You seem to get into more and more trouble if you don't fit that perfect body image. Now, that being said, in a recent documentary on the BBC, I think it was part of the science series Horizon, The Truth about Fat, that they claimed that in Britain now 25% of all women and 20% of all men must now be classed as obese (I can imagine those figures to be similar in the USA and a lot of other countries), yet still this myth of everybody looking like a Baywatch Babe (or whatever may be the latest fad) is perpetuated. Relationships are just much about physical appearance and little or no attention is paid to the human being behind it. Must make for a lot of very lonely people. __________________ Feeling a little peckish? Visit The Official Food Porn Thread Click here if you need help uploading pictures. Guide to Uploading and Managing your Attachments Click here if you need to contact the forum staff. List of Forum Staff

04-14-2012, 12:59 PM	#11
joe1257 Tiny Dick Beginner Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 68	I want to try online dating but I'm afraid women will think I am a creep or really desperate.

04-14-2012, 07:18 PM	#12
drake7k Tiny Dick Advanced Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 131	It all depends on how your act and what sites you go to. If the woman is going to like you then she will like you, if not, then she wasn't worth your time. That goes for both genders. I met mine on a site for a little sex, but we hit it off so well together that we kept seeing each other, until we couldn't stand being apart. Be honest with who you are from the get go, if you pretend to be someone you are not, then when you start getting comfortable with the person, your real personality comes through, and that tends to lead towards problems later on. And try not to just go for someone just for sex, that usually ends badly, though not in my case. If you make sex the priority, then the sexual part will be the focus of the relationship, and you are more likely to get pushed away do to size, but it they grow to like you, then your cock size won't be that much of an issue.

04-16-2012, 06:54 PM	#14
drake7k Tiny Dick Advanced Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 131	Thank you hoverfly.

04-19-2012, 11:40 PM	#17
jobleau Tiny Dick Ultimate User Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Near Montreal, QC Posts: 560	I've tried a bunch of those sites. Most will allow you a free account to set up a profile and browse other people profiles. Problem is when you find someone interesting you won't be able to send a mail. At best they have a 'wink' feature that you can use to let the other person know you are interested. If you want to do any kind of direct contact you usually have to upgrade your account to a paying one in the range of $30 to $50 a month, depending on the feature package you want. Want to email, pay. Want advanced search based on location or other criteria, pay more. But wait. That ain't the worst. Now that you've shelled your money and have all those nifty features, you're now exposed to 2 types of people you don't want. Fraudsters and dishonest people. Fraudsters are mostly annoying. You can usually see them coming and filter them out. But dishonest people, that's another story. You joined with a sincere desire to find someone, built an honest profile describing you as best as you can along with a couple of pictures. The least you can expect is honesty in return. Well, lots of people on those sites are not. I won't go into relating all the adventures I had with those sites. But I'll say that I used about 10 of them over the years and met a total of 6 women out of them. 1 of them was genuine and we simply were not a match. Fair enough. 4 of them (with profiles without pictures, darn don't make that mistake) were outright liars about a lot of things, particularly about physical appearance. And the last one, well, believe it or not, the pictures she posted, that showed an average looking rather tall and thin women, were not even hers. She was 5 feet and must have weighted near 300 pounds. Even the faces bore no resemblances. The sad part for her is that, even for a fat woman, she was rather cute. Much cuter than the picture of the woman she posted. But being lied like that was not something I could accept. This was bad enough. But here is the worst. On some of these sites, you will get tricked into buying by someone contacting you and suddenly disappearing once you've paid. I wonder what's the revenue percentage these sites get with such schemes... Now, I'm not saying all dating sites are bad or fraudulent. I'm just relating a few of the experiences I had with them. So be careful and be aware that your millage can vary a lot.

04-20-2012, 11:56 AM	#19
jobleau Tiny Dick Ultimate User Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Near Montreal, QC Posts: 560	I don't know about UK sites, but I did use a couple of Canadian sites that were advertising on TV. Not much better than the others in the end. They were may be a bit better designed and maintained. And they sure looked like they were making money. I did found that the sites that give you less free options seems to be the ones that make more money. Is that a coincidence? I don't know. The site that tricked me into paying for an account was one of them though. And I don't think that was a coincidence. I won't be naming any of these sites for obvious reasons. I'm not sure what you mean by sort of sites. They were basically all boasting to be the best site to meet/date people. As for the north american percentage of obese, I believe it is more in the 40%, especially in younger people.

04-20-2012, 08:44 PM	#20
hoverfly Tiny Dick Extraordinaire Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: East of England Posts: 1,567	With 'sort of sites' was still considering that there might actually be a difference between the TV ad jobs and those that give the impression of being a whorehouse for the desperate. But you saying that it seems to make little if any difference obviously debunks this and renders my question somewhat pointless. See, I keep telling you, you're talking to a dinosaur. LOL. Remember me telling you that I am back on 'proper' SLR's? 40% of youth in the USA. Well, I think I had better send our whales of to fast food paradise on London Road here. A friend of mine counted them once going up and down the road. He reckons just under 400 in a 3 mile stretch. Looks like we still have some catching up to do. LOL Not that it surprises me anymore. Recently one of our more obscure TV stations started airing a programme called 'Man v. Food', where some jerk is trying to eat some of the most gigantic meals I have ever seen, some of them totally disgusting i.m.o. but I guess if you drown it in enough tomato sauce.... Well, if people like that can be heroes, little wonder.